In Joyce Zonana’s Dream Homes, the author recalls her experiences with literacy and language. Even from an early age Zonana knew that language separated her parents and family from mainstream America. The first example of this occurs on page 8 of her memoir, when her mother recounts their experience with being quarantined shortly after they first immigrated:
“Tu etais tre malade,” my mother tells me. “You were very sick. You had a high fever, and they told us we had to stay in our room.”
“We were quarantined?” The idea is exotic, simultaneously romantic and frightening, evoking scenes of turn-of the-century immigration, the long lines and cold examination rooms at Ellis Island. Where were we? On the boat? In New York Harbour? My mother’s focus drifts.
“Yes, quarantined,” she repeats. “That’s the word. On etai si bite. We were so stupid. I stayed with you in the hotel for three days while Felix went out. No one ever checked.”
Her parents knew so little of the new language that they had a hard time communicating with border officials and people they came in contact with. They settled in a neighborhood where most people spoke their language; they felt comfortable there. Her mother felt most at home in the market, because it reminded her of her old home. This idea reinforces the salad bowl metaphor. In opposition to the melting pot theory, immigrants actually merge together in groups; though they are part of the whole, they function as separate independent communities. Zonana’s family functioned that way: they were part of the community, yet they were isolated by their differences. Their neighbors might have been united in some ways, but her family was Egyptian Jewish, and that set them apart.
Throughout her life Zonana searches for where she belongs. The older generation of her family connects through their old homestead, but Zonana was too young to remember it. She questions adults all the time, and asks them how something made them feel, what they saw, what they remember. She gets short, sharp answers, like the one quoted above. Her family either doesn’t want to speak about their pain or do not have the words to express it. She experiences Diaspora without really remembering the land that she lost. The younger generation of the family conforms better with the American culture because that is all they have known and they don’t miss the difference.
She recalls being at the airport when her mother’s parents were going through customs. Her mother was so excited. She banged on the glass separating the arrivals from the waiting families. Zonana wrote that, “In those days, I hated to be out with my mother in public. There she would be, obviously attached to me, speaking in her awkward, accented English, asking questions that embarrassed me, acting so unmistakably foreign, while I ached to be like everyone else.” When Zonana learns that neither grandparent knows English and sees how they stand helpless and speechless with the customs man ordering them to open bags and answer questions, she wants to help; she “wanted to run down to those old people trapped behind that glass wall, unable to speak the language, lost. I wanted to take their hands, to talk to the customs officer in my perfect, unaccented English, to lead them proudly from the chaos of the airport… (pg. 14).”
Throughout the entire book she searches for where she belongs and what it means to be Jewish. She wanted her dad to teach her Arabic so she can understand the older generation and therefore belong to that group, but he won’t. Her parents want her to connect to the American culture. When she grows up she hires a tutor to teach her the ancient language, and struggles with it because she is not learning it as a first language. She struggles throughout her entire life to belong to one culture or another, eager to fit into at least one.
Written by: Amanda Walker (
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Discussion Questions
1. What scene do you think shows Zonana’s desire to belong most? Do you think the desire is stronger to fit in with her family or her new friends?
2. Do you think a difference in language is the strongest divide between those immigrating to America and those born here? Does the scene of Zonana’s grandparents at customs influence your position?
3. Why was her mother ashamed of her ignorance? Do you think Zonana shared her mother’s sense of shame or did she pity her mother for her circumstance?